1. It is okay to fail.
Because life is made up of rejections from time to time and it teaches you to pick yourself up. Let failures encourage you to make bolder decisions and be a fighter. What does not kill you makes you stronger – if you want it to.
2. It is okay to not like people.
There are just some people that you simply cannot get along with, and that is okay. It is just differences in beliefs, priorities in life and values. Or sometimes the way they choose to speak, carry themselves and look at you. Learn how to let go of these relationships that make you feel uncomfortable and upset, and walk away.
3. It is okay when some people do not like you.
It is simply not possible to please everyone. Just like how you will not like some people, there will be people that not like you. Sometimes, it is not even personal. Just stay true to yourself and the right people will gravitate towards you. Then you will realise that a few true friends is more than enough to last you a lifetime.
4. It is okay to feel sad or afraid or angry or shitty or all of the above.
It is only human. To live is to feel various emotions and be vulnerable. Try to accept the emotions and go ahead to talk about it, vent it and do something or nothing or anything, to feel better again. Take it in your stride. Feeling like crap on some days do not make you a loser at life. Feeling like crap on some days is a part of life. Embrace the highs and lows.
5. It is okay to not want to do anything every once in a while.
Be lazy. Indulge in your guilty pleasures. Sleep. It is not a crime to re-energise, take time off and just live in the moment. Take it slow. Breathe. You do not have to be busy all the time to feel alive or to be living.
6. It is okay to ask for help.
Everyone needs help sometimes. Pride is not going to save you when you are drowning, when you want to change a light bulb that you cannot reach or when you cannot solve a mathematics equation. It is not a weakness, but a strength.
7. It is okay to make mistakes.
Just remember to learn from them.
8. It is okay to want to change something about yourself.
Your weight. Your fashion sense. Your hairstyle. Your personality traits. Your interests. People can talk and criticise and say whatever they want, but in the end, it is your choice. So do what makes you happy and do what will make you love yourself more. Positivity and self-esteem and self-care is important. If you feel good about yourself, life will seem better in many ways.
9. It is okay to want to be alone.
Have a meal alone. Just stay in your room and listen to your favourite band. Stay away from crowds. In a city of noise and buzzing activity all the time, wanting to be alone and connect with yourself is important. It does not make you a loner or anti-social. Soak in the peace and quiet. Enjoy your own company.
10. Everything will be okay in the end.
Because someday, somehow, when you learn to love yourself and be kind to yourself and others, things will just work out. Trust your instincts and the universe. Just believe that you will get to where you want to be. Dream big. Never give up.
(Note: This is for myself, really. But what is probably most important is that we know what is the best for ourselves and we do not need someone to tell us that it is okay for us to go ahead and do it. Our lives are in our hands. We love the way we want to. We make mistakes and learn from them the way we want to. We live life the way we want to.)